Practical tips for surviving a relationship breakdown
A relationship breakdown and separating of a home, is one of the most stressful and difficult situations you can go through. Once the decision has been made to go your separate ways, it is preferable to tie things up as promptly as possible to allow both parties to move on – our practical tips aim to help you do just that.
The emotional impact of a relationship breakdown is often complex and sometimes feels unmanageable. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family or a professional counsellor if you’re struggling to cope following the breakdown of your relationship. Your GP can advise you on counselling and make a referral. Relate and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy are also good starting points if you’re looking for counselling following the breakdown of a relationship.
Splitting your joint possessions:
When it comes to the division of possessions, try to keep your emotions in check and approach the task as objectively as possible, no matter how difficult the process is. There are likely to be certain items that have more value to one partner or the other, which can be divided fairly amicably, but for items that have financial or emotional value to both parties try making an extensive list of possessions and taking it in turns to select an item from the list.
If you own any pets together, deciding who keeps the pet can be challenging, but again try to consider the options as objectively as possible; who does the most pet care/can provide the most consistency for the animal? Who will be able to make the necessary financial and time commitments needed to continue caring for the pet?
If there are any children affected by the relationship breakdown it is important to seek proper support to ensure custody is arranged amicably and, ultimately, with the child or children’s best interests at heart. Organisations such as Relate can offer mediation and family counselling, dealing with both the practical and emotional impact of relationship breakdown.
When you co-own a property you may find that you’re tied to your ex-partner for longer than you would have hoped. According to Home.co.uk, it now takes an average of 177 days to sell a house on the open market. This is the lowest the figure has been since November 2008, but even so, when dealing with the emotional aspect of a relationship breakdown, six months of liaising with your former partner about selling a house, or worse still, having to continue to cohabit until the property is sold, may be just too much to bear. If you can’t stand the thought of being tied to your ex-partner for that amount of time it’s worth considering a quick house sale service from a company like Quick Move Now .
Quick Move Now can buy your house in as little as 7 days – leaving you free to move on with your life and make a fresh start.